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After chatting with various moms and drawing from my own experiences, I've compiled a list of essential "must-do's" for new moms—and dads are certainly included! While my focus has primarily been on moms, these tips can benefit anyone navigating the early stages of parenthood.
1. Rest
Rest is essential for new parents, although the advice to "sleep when the baby sleeps" can be challenging to follow. While it's ideal to nap when your baby does, don't feel guilty if you can't always do so. Focus on resting whenever possible, and remember to be compassionate with yourself when it's not feasible. If someone offers to watch the baby for an hour so you can rest, accept the help. Many challenges during pregnancy and postpartum stem from fatigue and inadequate rest.
2. Uninterrupted Shower Time
When was the last time you took a shower without rushing or worrying about your baby waking up? It's likely been a while. Here’s the thing—showers are a form of self-care. Yes, they are a basic human need. But no one appreciates more than a new mama experiencing a shower where she isn't worried about how long she has been under the hot water for because she has a screaming baby in the bouncer in the bathroom. If you can, carve out time for an uninterrupted shower. You’ll feel refreshed and new.
3. Get Some Fresh Air—Every Day
It is crucial for your mental well-being to spend time outdoors. Whether it's a short stroll to the mailbox or a brief moment on the front porch, ensure you get some fresh air daily. If the weather doesn't permit, consider walking around the mall with your baby in the stroller. The different surroundings, fresh air, and sunlight can have a positive impact. During the early postpartum period, individuals who have given birth may often feel isolated, so finding a way to leave the house in any manner is the most effective approach to combat this overwhelming feeling.
4. Socialization Matters
Connecting with other adults is vital during this time. Whether you already have a support network or this is new territory for you, having someone to talk to openly and honestly is crucial. Here are some ways to build or expand your social circle:
Facebook Groups: Search for mom groups in your town. If you can't find one, consider posting on your local town’s Facebook page to see if one exists.
Library Events: Check out your local library’s programs. Many libraries offer story time or music classes for infants and toddlers. Don’t limit yourself to your town—explore neighboring towns as well!
Personal Interests: Don’t forget to pursue activities that interest you outside of baby time. If possible, find ways to regain some independence by exploring a new hobby or craft. It’s a great way to recharge and maintain a sense of self.
Explore Parks & Recreation Programs
Many towns have Parks & Recreation programs that offer classes and activities for parents and children. These programs can be a great way to meet other parents and find fun, low-cost activities to do with your baby.
5. Stay Off the Gram
Stop Googling and stay off social media. While it might be tempting to seek answers online, the sheer volume of information can often be overwhelming, confusing, and conflicting. Constantly scrolling through social media can also feed into your anxiety or uncertainty, making it harder to find clear, reliable answers to your questions.
Moreover, social media can create unnecessary stress by encouraging comparisons with others. Seeing carefully curated images and posts about other parents seemingly thriving in their roles can make you feel inadequate or question your own parenting style. Remember, every parent and child is different, and what works for one family may not work for another.
Instead, focus on trusting your instincts and seeking advice from trusted sources like your healthcare provider, family, or close friends. You’re doing an amazing job, and it’s important to protect your mental well-being by avoiding the online noise.
Remember, this journey is all about finding what works best for you and your family. Take it one step at a time, and don’t be afraid to reach out for support when you need it.
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